'I tried to reconnect with you, but you rejected the call. Now I am moving forward, there's no way I'm staying backwards!'
I wrote this on my Facebook earlier. I had a little time to think what keeps us back? Why do we stop ourselves from moving forward? Here are the few questions that spring to mind. Do we feel that people will stop loving us? Do we feel that we will lose the ability to love? Do we feel that there is danger if we move forward? If we move forward will we regret it later and see it as a mistake?
If anyone wants to add any, please do. I will try and answer them.
Do we feel that people will stop loving us?
First of all, forget that people even love you! Hard to do?! It sure is! But we might aswell accept it. With the feeling that no one loves you, eventually you will begin to feel comfortable with yourself. You will begin to love yourself. This is a fundamental thing. Feel alone and you will never become alone. You are wondering what that means? The fact is the more we associate to an energy of nothingness, will we feel there is a strong presence. Not just any presence...but a strong energy. Some may call it God...I call it Rahul. You will call it by your name. A bit controversial? No! Self-realisation is God-realisation. So for five minutes, just think of nothing. Nothing at all. Even stop thinking that you are thinking about nothing. Eventually, that is the only love you need. The love for your self!
Do we feel that we will lose the ability to love?
Never! This is one of the tricks our minds play on us! If you become love, you cannot lose love. Love becomes every part of what you do. Even when you do not forgive, that will be seen as love. However, you cannot call every negative action or thought to be love. It has to have reason and logic. When you have understood love, it is very unlikely that you will lose it. I don't believe you can stop loving. It is like a disease, once you have one cell of love in your body, it travels everywhere...spreading to every part of your body. Simply, even when you do that excercise of thinking about nothing...you can never lose the ability to love.
Do we feel there is danger if we move forward?
Fear! Fear is what kills everyone including the living. In fact, the living are dead although they are living. Fear is something that consumes us so much that we don't move anywhere. We stand still, allowing the world to rush past us and wake up finding we have missed so much. The fear of entering the unknown is always present if you feel it is unknown. Nothing in life is unknown, we just never try to find out for ourselves. We depend on others to instruct us. By the time you have been given the instructions, you have wasted time! You lose the whole process of gaining the instructions yourself. It is such a beautiful feeling! You will never feel there is danger as long as you remove the feeling of the 'Unknown'!
If we move forward will we regret it later and see it as a mistake?
This depends on what deeds we have. Are they bad or good? It depends. Moving forward is quite a complex but simple thing to do. If we move forward without hurting others in the process then we will not regret it or see it as a mistake. If you have lost something in moving forward, most likely your road will only be a road of destruction. Yes, sometimes we move forward for the right thing, some people don't understand, it could be due to their ignorance. However, if they are not ignorant and you are losing their support then wake up! You will regret what you have done eventually and you will beat yourself for making the mistake. You cannot expect your loved ones to support you if you are in the wrong. You would not support your loved ones if they are in the wrong. It's simple as that. Yes, I openly admit that I do not support those that are doing wrong. If you lose any relationship you have with me, consider you will regret it and it will be or is a mistake right now. This does mean that in a way it makes me ignorant but I stand by what I believe in! I know what I do will not hurt others...my silence will hurt them! By having clear intentions, by being honest and moving forward, you will not regret it. If for once, you was dishonest, you changed your justifications then consider you have made the mistake!
Rahul N. Singh
